How the False Feminine can hurt you
The false feminine explains how your unresolved issues are causing your struggle, stunting your growth and leading you to make choices that are out of integrity with your true self.
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“most problems that you’re dealing with in your life are really not about what you think they’re about, they have a hidden agenda, that agenda is to keep you small and safe.” — Dr. Hendricks
The Rose. The rose is the cosmological symbol of the Divine Woman. The way that Creator sees all women is as the Rose, the highest frequency of all flowers, Divinely perfect with unparalleled beauty and fierce thorns that can protect her creations and her values.
Getting Real: Do you always see yourself that way? Do you see other women that way?
Every child comes into this world already loving, already happy, shimmering of the divine light and connection to their Creative Life Force. But something happens as soon as that child is born — she is born into a collective hive mind of beliefs that can form her identity if pushed on to her. Our natural way of being in the world is free, playful, creative, innocent, secure and loving without condition. Yet we can feel shut off from our true nature due to the many beliefs that come from a fear based way of seeing the world.
The fears of the collective hive mind squeezes us into small and safe boxes, teaching us how to think, how to feel, how to look, and how to connect to each other. As a society, our inability to get along with one another, live in harmony and sustain a thriving life, is the result of this false matrix of dogma and limitation.
From a metaphysical point of view, the false matrix is the reason why far too many women grow up with body image issues, damaged self esteem, relationship breakdowns, hormonal problems, sexual abuse, a sense of powerless-ness, collective burden of being a woman, needless struggle and financial lack.
This wouldn’t be the case if she was educated about her life force, the Goddess force within her — how to plug into it and how to take care of it.
Without full connection to her inner Goddess, a woman grows bitter. Woman is not meant to wilt under the weight of opinions and beliefs of others, she is meant to rise and blossom with other roses. Today, we live in a culture that I call the “dominant field”, an old patriarchal paradigm that doesn’t know how to take care of a rose garden and is therefore, missing out on the immense beauty and inspiration of what life could be.
If you are a woman who has found this article, then you are likely a woman who has known deep within herself that something is seemingly off with the world. If so, that’s the whisper of your intuition alerting you that it’s time to go deeper and find out how you can overcome life’s challenges and get on track with your flourishing.
What is the one thing that stops most women on the empowerment journey in their tracks?
The False Feminine. It is our internal resistance based on the fears that we have adopted from our environmental conditioning. This resistance can trick you into thinking it’s helpful by showing you a lighter side to self-sacrifice. In my client sessions with women, I have observed this energy as a benevolent light, but when seen beyond it’s appearance, there emerges a dark shadow with scales.
It comes from centuries of justifying, complying with and co-creating the wound of separation from our connection to the Universal Womb where all life comes from. The false feminine matrix comprises some of the greatest subconscious patterns of suffering in people today. It can keep people in a place of resistance from living our dreams, and ascending into pure love and unity consciousness — our truest, most enjoyable and abundant nature.
Another way to say this, is that the condition of the mind is designed to work against being true to our personal path of freedom and creation. The true self can have it all and be fully aware of itself as a creative being of infinite potential. The God and Goddess realized in physical form. However, this takes a conscious commitment, a revolutionary choice, to right the wrong of causing harm and realize Creator within yourself. Because the false light matrix is incredibly intelligent, it is fully astute and aware of the function of the human mind, so it preys on our weaknesses, causing confusion and restraint on our evolutionary progress.
The false feminine lives among the blind spots of our energy system, where it normally goes undetected. Most are largely unaware of its influence until you’ve caught yourself in a familiar cycle of struggle. Let’s look at a few of the common traits.
The People Pleaser
Stems from seeking validation or approval as a young girl and not receiving it, likely receiving poor treatment instead. Now as an adult, she fears rejection and copes by pleasing others and feels guilty if she doesn’t, making “I’m sorry” a go to favorite in her vocablulary. You’ll never reach your greatest potential if you’re trying to be good to all people — same goes if you’re trying to be spiritual. You may excessively blame yourself, or you fear other people are always blaming you. For the people pleaser, it is important to know that you have done nothing wrong and abandoning yourself every time you seek acceptance from another is really what causes you harm. Accepting your Authentic self is your path to the wholeness of the Divine Feminine.
To find the inner people pleaser, ask yourself:
“Am I trying or pretending to be something I am not right now?”
The Ice Queen
When the bullied becomes the bully — this is the shadow influence of “The Ice Queen”. She often comes out as an energy that pokes fun at others or projects her opinion of reality as way of powering up. It can be that cold shoulder, silent treatment energy, before it becomes a sting to prove one’s point. This inner judge/punisher dynamic stems from patriarchal influence, resulting in resentment and a great deal of unresolved pain. It is likely you are doing a lot of doubting or undermining of yourself as well as others. The experience of jealousy with other women and a competitive drive is normal for the Ice Queen. What will melt the ice is knowing that you don’t have to take anything personally. What you deeply need is to respect and love your own needs and open up to support. The true sensibilities of the Divine Feminine, attracts from her magnetic presence and leads by way of inspiring others — this is how she easily finds her people.
To find the Ice Queen, ask yourself:
“Without having to be right, how am I really feeling?”
The Shadow Heroine
Everyone loves you because of your giving and dependable nature. It seems you’re always the go to woman for the job, especially in handling delicate matters of emotion and heart. You want to save everyone from pain. Watch this tendency to save the day, because it is costing you precious resources as the absorption of other people’s dramas and traumas are weighing you down. This false feminine feeds into self-importance and the gratification of feeling needed — this is sabotaging your freedom and growth. The shadow of the Heroine is resolved when you illuminate yourself with feminine presence and personal boundaries.
To find the shadow heroine, ask yourself:
“Am I feeling obligated to say “yes” when deep down I need a break?
The Victim Identity
Subconsciously your mind says, “It never works for me”, “I can’t because of…”,“She can because she’s more…”, “I have to do this thing I don’t want to do”, “I’m not good at it”.
Be aware, this false feminine tends to be the most resistant to change and will find safety in diminishing herself, blaming others or claiming excuses to NOT take action to improve her life. The tendency to re-tell stories of the past can keep you spinning in a cycle of drama, attracting other drama queens. Likely, there is an underlying fear keeping you from walking your true path and you probably find comfort in delaying it. However, this comes at a price: Struggle. Resistance keeps new possibilities from coming to you. People are not able to hear or see the true you. So you may feel misunderstood, unsupported and find yourself longing to be more effective and free in life. Opening up to your vulnerable expression and facing your fears is what will liberate the Goddess from the victim’s own imprisonment.
To find the inner victim, ask yourself:
“Do I love myself enough to forge a new way for myself?”
The Sleeping Princess
Have you ever caught yourself spending too much time on focusing on the positive and how you appear to others, then being authentically you? The sleeping princess is stuck in appearances and fantasies vs. what is true and best for her. You are likely to do as others do to fit in. Because you’ve given your power to the outside world, your voice is blocked from it’s true expression. Deep down inside you long for healing, but the ego of pride can hold you back from getting honest with yourself. The princess does not rise into the Queen until she knows her true self. Discovering who you are and loving yourself for what you find, is your path to the Divine Feminine.
To find the sleeping princess in you, ask yourself:
“Underneath everything, is my underlying motivation for beauty in self love or self loathing?”
The false feminine matrix
is the unresolved aspects of your patriarchal conditioning that are holding the brakes on everything that you deeply want and deserve!
They are the shadows of resistance — and I have only named a few.
Resistance to what? To realising the unshakable power of the Goddess within you — The Divine Woman that can have it all, that can overcome any fear, and make the impossible possible, without sacrificing anything of herself!
Experiencing the sheer potency and truth of your full light potential is one of mankind’s greatest fears. I am constantly amazed to see how much this one fear holds so many good people back whom are actually asking the universe for more good in their lives! It is the fear of “having it be that good” so we unconsciously cap the good feeling — electing luke warm mediocrity instead.
Mankind is addicted to experiencing life within the false security of limitation. Dropping my “I know” we can enjoy Oneness with Life?— eh, maybe tomorrow…
“Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old familiar zone…” — Gay Hendricks
That’s why our collective evolution hinges on women holding the mantle of Love — She will not settle for less anymore. She wants to experience the full expression of Love, and how life can get even better. When she accepts her purpose as a steward in this mission, she will look to find her inner balance and come into true flow with the Universe — and that to her, is the gift of attaining bliss. She will lead the way towards freedom, showing those whom still wait on the sidelines, how to evolve with grace.
“The world will be saved by the western woman,” — The Dali Lama
The shadows of resistance don’t want us to make leaps and bounds in our personal evolution. If we enlighten ourselves then their agenda of using our fear states as food, means they can no longer survive on earth. Heaven on earth and spiritual liberation for all beings is the divine will and intention of Creator.
That’s why many feel the call to rise — the soul urging you to listen to your heart’s voice and take inspired action like never before. The selfish agenda of the mind to stay put and comfortable, is essentially keeping our collective growth on lock-down.
The way to address this is to do so holistically, where the source of the separation can be healed and the Goddess can come alive within a woman. Without proper education, the subconscious mind can keep it’s agreements with the false feminine until you have that “Aha!” moment that sets your free. You do not have to wait for your liberation, when you are willing to take the higher path of true Love and Light.
You are the Rose.
Woman can tap into more of her potentials, living without restrictions of identity, societal beliefs and in balance with her masculine and feminine energies. Here, she is embodying the Divine Creation flow of her true self.
If you are willing to answer the call of your Soul and flourish — know that you can and you are made too. Your soul has longed for this opportunity long enough, now is the time to embark on the greatest journey of your life!
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